"Television and Film auditions have often been a challenge for me, particularly when you get one or two lines and definitely when there are no lines. Stuart's technique allowed me to take all my stage craft and apply it into making 30 seconds as full as an evening in the theater."
Tony award winner for Jelly's Last Jam, and Tony nominee and 2005 Los Angeles Drama Critics Circle Award for Caroline or Change
So often actors say to me that they can’t stand the rejection of our business.
I always try to remind them that what they are feeling is not rejection, rather disappointment.
You have to keep in mind, no one is rejecting you- they don’t know you and all of which you are capable. They are rejecting the emotional/behavioral choice you have offered them. Think about that: one of thousands of choices you could have made. They have determined, rightly or misguidedly, that your choice is not the answer to their needs. They may recognize your talent, but have no time to shape that talent into what they are looking for.
So, there is no rejection; only the decision to continue the search for a choice that better answers the need. And that, it’s true, is disappointing. So, in lieu of depression, hating the business, or reinventing yourself, the solutions are basic:
1. Continue the effort to make better choices.
2. Get better at handling disappointment.
Our profession is filled with little and big disappointments. But it also is a journey of the most positive and rewarding creative experiences one can imagine. It will all balance out if you let it. Hang in there… your day is coming.
“It’s not what happens to you that determines how far you will go in life; it is how you handle what happens to you.” – Unknown